When it comes to food many of us (a majority of women) make decisions based on emotions. If you find yourself always gravitating towards the dessert table then you need to take a look at the bigger picture of what is going on.
There are plenty of foods you could have so why this particular food and why right now? What I always tell my clients who struggle with this very same thing is to avoid guilt feelings if you chose to partake. You are an adult and are fully capable of deciding whether you want to have it or not. Feeling guilty over it only leads to emotional eating.
How many times have you given into a dessert and said to yourself, “well I blew it now so I might as well eat some more and start again on Monday?” If you can relate then this message is for you. You are not a bad person but you are making these choices because of the what you are telling yourself. You are getting something out of it.
It isn’t about lack of willpower; you are receiving a result for your choices. You know it isn’t the best choice you could make, but you want to show control or get some kind of reaction out of your decision. Does sugar or candy give you a happy childhood memory? Do you feel like this gives you control over something in your life?
Instead take a step back when faced with whatever food it is that is taunting you and ask yourself, d o you really want this right now or would you rather wait and have something much better at the end of the week. Take the power away from the food and give it back to yourself. You are 100% in control; nobody is going to force it on you (no matter what they say). YOU DECIDE….
If you answer YES to the question, they eat it slowly and enjoy whatever feedback response you are receiving from it and then walk away. That’s it… You can’t get caught up in a spiral of choosing to eat it several times a day every day of the week, if so – then there is more of an issue going on here.
Whatever you do- don’t tell yourself you can’t have it. That is the worst thing you can do when it comes to emotional food responses. That just leads to that little inner child that we all have, that is defiant and wants what they are told they can’t have. Instead make it your decision.
Try it next time and let me know how it works for you. Remember, you are always in control and always have been. Take back the power!!!